Building Confidence: Easy Ways That Will Lead to Success and Self-Worth
Being confident is one of the tools that’ll make you successful.
Being confident is one of the tools that’ll make you successful.
Today’s society is full of self-esteem. Social media is filled with motivational videos and the message is spread out around the world.
Choose yourself, change yourself, find yourself, believe yourself - a true message, that pushes you to get better, but the question is “how?”.
It’s really easy to get motivated and start doing stuff, then we turn to the hard stuff and gett lost, because we don’t know what it actually is and how to reach it. If we did, though, using discipline with a splash of motivation, could take us a long way.
What Is It
Self-esteem is the belief in one’s worth and abilities - one’s confidence. It shapes how they view themselves and directly influences how they interact with the world around them. Basically it’s your opinion about yourself. This is a crucial trait that can change the way you behave, react and build your relationships with others.
While it plays a vital role, it‘s not something that you can get overnight. It’s a long, consistent process. Just like emotional and social intelligence, good relationships and a healthy body - it takes time, effort and consistency.
Now, that we know what it is and what part it plays in one’s life, let’s get to achieving.
Building
Again, this journey is not a one-size-fits-all type of situation, it’s more of a try, reflect, change and modify your routine, here are a few suggestions:
Positivity – Be supportive, kind and understanding. Not only to yourself, but to others too, as the saying goes “treat others as you wish to be treated”, but don’t forget to set boundaries. Being in a place where you are not respected - is not something a confident person would do. Stand up for yourself.
Don’t compare yourself to others – our minds, thinking, bodies, values are all different. Even twins who look like a copy of each other, are polar opposites. Remember that throughout your journey.
Acknowledge your achievements – don’t brush off compliments, saying it’s ‘ good luck’ or punish yourself for doing something incorrectly. You are human- humans make mistakes.
Journal - appreciate your qualities, write down something you achieved or felt every day. After some time, reflect and look back, how far you’ve come and how much is still left.
Enjoy your free time – ****schedule appointments, workouts, anything you like. The boost of serotonin helps us to feel more confident.
Exercise – ****it’s a great way to boost your dopamine levels. That helps you overall mood and decreases the levels of anxiety.
Enhance failures—it’s not all about growing. Learning from your mistakes is a pillar of self-esteem, too. It's important to be able to get back up after falling. Confidence isn’t about being perfect—it's about being resilient.
A few more gambles
Low self-esteem affects more than just your thoughts, behaviour and values. What do you think affects your personal and professional relationships? Yep, the same old confidence.
One last question - how do you start?
While there is no specific starting point, self-worth would be the first thing to check. Self-worth is the foundation of self-esteem. It is your belief of deserving love, respect and other various things.
It’s your opinion of what you deserve. Self-worth is crucial for romantic, professional and most importantly, your relationship with yourself.
If one’s self-worth is low, the possibility of them letting their partner treat them like shit is too high. They think they deserve this, when in reality they don’t.
The first way to raise one’s self-worth is to set boundaries. In all kinds of relationships.
People will treat you the way you treat yourself, remember that. And even if they still treat you badly, your self-esteem will be there to protect you.
The first thing
One major step toward improving your self-esteem is managing your relationship with social media. While it’s not necessary to cut it out entirely, it’s important to engage with it in a way that supports your well-being. Otherwise, why would you need it for?
To chase the ongoing trends that change rapidly?
Three main things to get rid of, if you want social media to make you happy rather than miserable:
The need for validation - the more likes, comments, shares and followers you get, do not dictate how good, smart or beautiful you are. Your platform should be for you. Share your adventures with your friends. Make it like an online scrap book. Something you can go back through and feel grateful.
Beauty standards - social media sets unrealistic beauty standards. Flat bellies, huge biceps or perfect woman figures. In reality, your body will change throughout the day if you fill it with at least 2 litres of water and nutritious food. Everyone’s genes and body types are different. Stop comparing yourself.
Fear of missing out - you see someone constantly partying, travelling the world or building a family. Depends on your values. And then you fear of missing out. Remember - people share only what they want you to see. So maybe they’re not actually having fun at the party, they have bad apartments they are staying at, or they have different abilities in order to make that happen. Everything will come to you at a certain time if you work for it. If you don’t, then you will miss out.
Choose how you use social media, as it can play a huge role in your self-worth and self-esteem.
Fine Line
Self-esteem doesn’t walk around alone. It’s a gradual thing. Firstly, you achieve self-worth and just then work your way up to confidence.
True confidence allows room for acknowledging that we don’t have all the answers, and that’s okay.
It’s crucial to have both of those things to be successful. But be humble, don’t let your ego swallow you.
Understand your capabilities, approach your goals with them. If it doesn’t work out - try again.
“In youth, it was a way I had, To do my best to please. And change, with every passing lad. To suit his theories. But now I know the things I know And do the things I do, And if you do not like me so, To hell, my love, with you.” ― Dorothy Parker.
